Polite way to request; [JLPT grammar]

My student asked me “why isくださってませんか not used when asking people to do something.”

Giving and receiving verbs always confuse learners, but their polite style is even more complicated.

But it is not difficult if you understand them slowly one by one.



[A Student’s Question]

There is this question.


1. あげませんか

2. もらいませんか

3. くださってませんか

4. いただけませんか

「3. くださってませんか」がどうしてだめですか。
Why is 3 incorrect?


[Sensei’s Answer]

First, let me explain the sentence structure.


means, 「すみませんが、もう少しゆっくり話してください」



↓ polite


↓ polite




So,  the correct answer is No.4「いただけませんか」


Why are the others incorrect?

1.  あげませんか

〜てあげる to do for [someone]

〜てあげませんか shall we do for [someone]

?話してあげませんか Shall we talk for…


2.  もらいませんか

〜てもらいませんか (no-potential) let’s do…

?話してもらいませんか Let’s get him/her to talk.

◎〜てもらえませんか (potential-form) Can you do…


3.  くださってませんか

?〜てくださってませんか (くださっていませんか)

?くださっている ongoing action, current state+ませんか

◎〜てくださいませんか=〜ていただけませんか Could you do…



Did my explanation enhance your understanding?

This is a JLPT N4 (Elementary level) question.

N4 level is the second stage of the JLPT.

This level will allow the student to continue working on sentence building as well as new grammar points.
Students will be able to create simple sentences using various verbs and adjectives conjugations.
They will be able to survive a lot of basic situations like meeting new people, shopping, or talking about their day.


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